I’ve come to learn over the years, that some people come into your life and stick around forever, while others are there for a specific part of your life but may fade with time.
It’s kind of a sad thought that some people you meet may not stay. There have been some people who I became so close with, the tell-each-other-everything kind of friendships, but time and sometimes distance made the connections fade.
So is it possible to get them back?
In some cases I think most definitely yes!
My best friend from when I was in dance and I were so very close when we saw each other frequently. We did everything together and told each other everything. Then I went away to college, but our friendship didn’t faulter. She ended up at the same school as me the year after, but oddly enough we saw each other less. I honestly thought I had lost my best friend and knew a lot of it was my fault because I had a whole different life at school. And how do you mix your old life with your new life? Will things ever be the same?
Well of course they won’t. We both changed, got different groups of friends and had our own, extremely busy lives.
But I’m more than happy to say that we are still great friends! Every time we see each other, it’s like no time has passed at all. So our friendship wasn’t really lost, it just changed.
Do I wish things were the way they were in high school, sometimes yes. But the fact that we grew up and our friendship grew with it is something I hold onto. I still have her in my life, and if we survived huge life changes and moves (for both of us), then I’m pretty sure we can survive anything.
But I haven’t been this lucky with all of my friendships. I had another best friend in high school that I was always with. We were literally attached at the hip. We both ended up going to different colleges, but still maintained our friendship, and I feel like it got stronger. But towards the end, we were both making decisions that the other didn’t really like. I won’t go into the details, but at one point both of us just stopped talking to each other. I tried reaching out to her once, but it just wasn’t the same.
So it had me thinking. Was she a forever-friend, or one who was there to help me through a certain part in my life? Had we outgrown each other?
And maybe that was supposed to teach me a lesson about how I was handling my friendships.
Since then I’ve put in extra effort to check in with old friends, and let them know I still care. So I guess my message of this messy post is to cherish your friendships, because if you stop doing the work to keep them in your life, they may fade away and you may not be able to get them back!
And to all of my friends that have stuck around, I love you all so so much and look forward to many more years of friendship! ❤
Until Next Time,
P.S. This post goes out to my longtime best friend Niki! I’m so glad we’ve stayed friends over the years, and I truly cherish your friendship!